16 | ALWAYS keep track of your VALUES in life even in your productivity PLANNING. Neglecting this very point equals FAILURE in your planning!

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Which one is better mama?

Planning in a superficial level and try to stick to it by neglecting all the other roles and values in your life?

or

Planning in a rational way and keep your priorities in life, still on the list?

How is it possible to consider all the other areas of our life when it comes to our day to day planning? 

It's 100% DOABLE! You just need to create a system for your planning and commit to that, this podcast really worth listening... 

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Hey, there, and welcome back. This is MamaNest podcast and you' re listening to episode number sixteen. We've started a productivity planning series from Episode Number Fifteen and we've talked about time blocking and stuff. Today we're going to continue that topic, that interesting topic that lots of you really loved it, and we're going to talk about defining nonnegotiable list of actions that we need to cover each week in order to just make sure that all of our core needs are met throughout the week. So what do you say? Let's dive into today's topic. Be The best version of yourself, Mama. I'm master, is a and welcome to Mamaist and nest for mother MOMS were eager to achieve a simpler, more intentional life. In this podcast, we're going to rewrite the screen and reinvent the culture of Motherhood Together. Remember, becoming a mother is the beginning of our prosperity, not forgetting our souls. A fulfilled, healthy, confident and productive mom is all we need to be to guarantee our families future. I'm an admission to make you feel in power and less overwhelmed. We'll focus on productivity, parenting, mindfulness, mini MoLISA sustainable lifestyle, financial awareness besides family wellness. I'm here to hope you brought in new horizon and gain clarity and showing up as your best mamaself. So let's build you out today. Let's dive into it. Hello, Mama, how are you doing these days? I really hope you're doing awsome, especially in Your Motherhood Journey. Well, we're supposed to talk about productivity planning system and I cannot tell you that how excited I am about this topic of productivity in time management and stuff. You know, I'm a kind of person who is always in search for a mean boosting productivity hacks and things like that. So, as I told you in the last episode, I have implemented lots of techniques and hacks out there and I've reached to a flexible time blocking system that I think it can just sticks to lots of people, people's lives. I mean whether you're a mom, you're a single woman, or your married woman, or even you're a man. It can stick to a lot of you out there, and I've defined the time blogs as morning block, set up block, Work Block, family block and nighttime block. If you want to know really more about I mean really in depth about this time blocking system and what is it about the definition of all of these time blocks? You can go and listen to episode Number Fifteen, and I really do encourage you to do that, because it's a preliminary, I mean topic for this week's episode. So, assuming that you have listened to episode Number Fifteen and hopefully you have implemented your time blocking system for yourself, we're going to start this weeks topic, which is about defining our nonnegotiable list of actions. So what are these nonnegotiable list of actions and why are they important to be considered every week, I mean on a weekly basis. Okay, the list of actions or the list of tasks that we need to do in order to feel full filled each week in every area of our life are called nonnegotiable actions. At least I call it so, you know, I call it the list of actions that I...

...cannot even negotiate with myself in order to not do them every week. And first of all, let me tell you that why is it important to just define this list of nonnegotiable actions? In my point of view, if we just establish our time blocking system and establish our time management system or whatever activity playing system that I that we are using on a daily basis without considering our fundamental, I mean needs and core needs. It is a failure, you know, and why do I say so? Because we need to feel fulfilled in order to just go and pour into other earths of our life. So if you're not feeling good in every area of our life, like, for example, spirituality, like motherhood, like the relationship that we have with our husband, so we cannot really establish a healthy, I mean time management system or whatever planning system on top of it, I mean version of our souls. That is unhealthy. And why do I say that? Because I do believe that we need to be a whole person, and a whole person is someone who is fulfilled in every area of her life or his life. I've talked about the will of life and the necessity of trying to balance our will of life in order to feel really better in life, in to feel that we are a whole person. In episode number four, it's a mindful practice in order to just help you define your will of life, score yourself based on your current level and define some practical steps and practical actions in order to just try to make your bill of life and more balanced will of life. So make sure to listen to that episode two. And so, with this length the introduction, let's go to today's practical steps that I've prepared for you in order to define the nonnegotiable list of actions for yourself, which is customized for your own life. The first step is related to your will of life. So, for those of you that haven't listened to episode number four, I want to just summarize the concept of will of life and tell you that, as I told you, that the will of life is a kind of birds eye view of your life that you can just by taking a look at that, you can just understand how are you doing in every area of your life. And I've told you that there are tons of versions of will of life out there. They can go and grab that and, based on that, evaluate your life. But you have established a tailor made version of will of life that I'm going to just reiterate the sectors of that will of life for you. You can also go to moment as Webs site in a section of resource Theys, and download this will of life for yourself. But the sectors were first motherhood, spirituality, love, health, finances, profession, physical environment, community, family or recreation, in personal growth, and I've told you that we need to be balanced in every one of these areas in order to be a whole person, and a whole person with live a better life, for sure, because she feels fulfilled in every area of her life. So, in the first step, I want you to evaluate your will...

...of life and label your state in each of these sectors as happy, unhappy or so so. And why do I mean by that? I mean that, for example, in the sector of Motherhood, are you satisfied with the role of a mother that you're playing now in your life? Are you happy about how your mother in these days of your life? And so label yourself, and label, I mean, your state in that sector of your life as happy, unhappy or so so. Or another example, for example, in the sector of health. Do you feel really happy about this state of health that you have now in your life, or maybe you're feeling, for example, so so your for example, having a healthy diet but not enough physical activity in your life. So, after labeling all of the areas of your will of life based on happy, unhappy and so so, now we're moving to the next step that you're going down into the needed greedy of what is it exactly we are doing or we are not doing that leads to the previous that we have made in the previous step. I mean why, for example, we feel happy as a mother every week, on a weekly basis? What are we doing that it gives us this kind of feeling? What is the set of actions that we're doing on a daily or weekly basis that makes us feel happy about the role of mother that we're playing now? Or, for example, what are the list of actions that we are not doing that really leads to feeling unhappy about the health status of our body? We write down exactly what are we doing or what are we not doing that gives us that kind of feeling about this sectors of our life, and then we go to the next step, the third step, which is establishing our core needs based on the things that we have written in the previous step. So we need to write one or two specific tasks that we believe that they would bring us closer to feeling happy each week about that sector of our life if we do them on a weekly routine. So pay attention and here me we need the actions that are really needed to be repeated every week and we need to just routinely do them every week in order to feel fulfilled in every area of our life. We would do that for for even the areas of our life that we really feel happy to. And why do I mean by that? Take, for example, the example of Motherhood Sector, which is so, so important for all of us. For example, I feel happy about this sector of my life. For example, I'm really satisfied with what I'm doing now. So I do need to just sit and really concentrate on what is it that I'm doing on a weekly basis, on a daily basis, on a routine basis, that really gives me this kind of feeling happy and fulfilled and satisfied in this sector of my life? Maybe it is a kind of one on one time that I have with my daughter every day that gives...

...me this kind of feeling, or maybe I'm not really happy with this sector of my life and I'm thinking that why I'm feeling like that. And why what do I think that if I have done on a weekly basis, it would really progress, I mean, my my relationship with my motherhood role would progress in this sector of my life. So, for example, I would reach to the I don't know, reading book with my daughter every night before sleep. Maybe these kind of actions that you think in your life. It really sticks to your plan and your life and the character sticks of you. So you know, what is it exactly that you need to do in order to just feel better in each sector of your life? For another example, just considered the family recreation sector of your life. You feel really ill in this sector of your life. You feel that you're not doing really well. So you sit and think that what can I do on a daily basis, on a weekly basis that really improves my wholeness in this area of my life? For example, you reach to this conclusion that I need to, for example, have a routine of family movie time with the whole family members every week on the weekends, or maybe having a family branch on the weekends. So these kind of actions that are really customized for everyone's life and it is really based on your own characteristics, your own circumstances in life. You need to define them for yourself. So it doesn't matter even the ones that you're feeling happy with or the ones that you're feeling unhappy with or the ones that you're in the middle. You you think that you're doing. I didn't know. Maybe so so or something in between. Just right down what you can do in order to move toward this effectrum of unhappiness to happiness in every area of your life. So they need to be practical actions that you can do on a weekly or daily basis. So, for the fourth step, I want you to start small, one small step at a time. I know that I really can relate to you and I know that we are some sort of perfecttionist people. Whenever we are thinking that we are weak in any area of our life, we want to take all of the actions that we need to go to the the strong side of us, all that ones. But believe me, this is not the correct approach and we need to take small steps. I recommend you write all of the actions that you think and you believe that these are important in order to bring you closer to the happy version of you in all of your your sectors of life, and then prioritize them. I mean, for example, if you're doing nothing for the family or recreation sector of your life, so it is not really rational to put lots of actions in this area in your your program in your plan for the week. I mean that if you're not used to just, I mean spend time with your family in any way. So so it is really impractical if you think that you can put, for example, lots of family activities throughout your...

...real and can commit to that. It is not really do bole. One of the suggestions is that you can write down all of the actions that you do believe that if you take them on a weekly basis, it would really emiliorate your state in that area of your life, and then prioritize that, for example, in the area of family recreation, you have discovered that, for example, you need to have a kind of family movie routine every week, a kind of family brunch routine every week, or maybe any kind of family phone activity, and then prioritize them based on what is it that is more important in your family life situation and what is it more doable in the situation that you have in your family now, and so reach to one or two actions in all of these areas, in all of these sectors of your will of life. Ideally, I do believe that one action in each of the sectors is really enough. So I'm going to wrap up in five of the areas of your will of life. For example, you're feeling happy and your identifying what are the sort of actions that I'm doing on a weekly or daily basis that really gives me that kind of feeling in those areas of my life. And for, for example, two of the ear as, you're feeling unhappy, and so you're identifying what are you not doing that leads to this kind of feeling in those areas of your life? And for three of the other sectors of your life, you're feeling so so, and so you're identifying what are the sorts of action that helps need to feel better in the areas of my life, and so you reach to ten list of actions. These list of actions are nonnegotiable tasks that you need to do on a weekly basis in order to feel better in every area of your life. And when you feel better in the whole, I mean areas of your life, you would feel whole and you would feel fulfilled and you would really act better and pour into other areas of your life, other rules of your life, really with more energy and with more interest and everything. You know, it is a very fundamental step that solt the Times. It is overlooked in our planning for the week, especially for us as MOMS, that we need to leave really as a whole person's because we do have lots of areas in our life that needs to be covered, our role as a mom, our role as a spouse, as our role as someone who needs to take care of herself, her body, everything. So we have lots of I mean layers in our life and that need to be covered in order for us to feel as a whole person. And now, as a whole person we can boost our productivity in whatever activity that we are doing. We can pour into our work, we can pour into our child, we can pour into our family members, our spouse, our home, everything. And in the fifth step and the final step, I want you to make revisions about your nonnegotiable tasks on a weekly basis. So you're defining the list of actions and you're committing yourself to just do that sort of actions throughout the week. At the end of...

...the week you would revise your plan, you would revise your list of actions, list of nonnegotiable actions. Are those kind of actions that you have identified really helping you to move you towards a happier version of you in that sector of Your Life? So you need to take it into consideration. You need to every to reflect about the week that I've passed. Is the action of, for example, having a family movie with the family really helpful in order to make me feel better about that sector of my life? Was the one or one time that I've set aside for having with my daughter really helpful in making me feel better in that area of my life? And so for the other task that I have identified, ask yourself these kind of questions in order to just redefined the list of nonnegotiable actions and after a while, after maybe some weeks, you can reach to a set of nonnegotiable tasks that you can just say that these kind of actions really help me to be a better person, be a whole person every week, and being a whole person, as I told you, it kind of preliminary step for moving towards a more productive version of your soul. So it is a preliminary step for any kind of planning system out there, and this is the kind of difference among the systems out there and the systems that we need to have as a mom, specially with with this kind of complex environment that we're living in every day of our life. So, in order to just summarize and wrap up the topic, I want to just mention all the steps one another time. The first step was evaluating our will of life and label our state in each of the sectors as happy, so so and unhappy. And in the next step we went through the definition of what is it exactly that we're doing or we're not doing in each of the areas of our life that really leads to that feeling. In the third step, we established our core needs based on the things that we have written in the second step and we tried to write two or one, ideally one, specific tasks that we believe that it would bring us closer to feeling happy each week if we do it on a on a weekly routine, and we want to write these kind of specific actions for the sectors that we feel happy or unhappy or so so. It is not any kind of difference between these sectors and these feelings. And in the fourth step, I reminded you to start a small, one small step at a time, and we do not want to be perfectionist. And the final step was making revisions about our nonnegotiable list of actions every week, after just doing them on a weekly basis in order to reach to an ultimate list of nonnegotiable tasks that we think that it really helps us to strive as a whole person every week. Okay, this was it, that topic of nonnegotiable list of actions that we...

...need to define and we need to be committed to every week in order to just have a more productive and a better lifetime. So make sure to be with me for the next episode. You know, episode number seventeen, which is the end point to the productivity planning systems series. I need to marry these two episodes of time blocking and nonnegotiable list of actions and just tell you how you can set your weekly planning system in order to boost your productivity with these two fundamentals that are told you, I mean timelocking and nonnegotiable list of actions. So stay tuned for next week's episode. By the way, we have committed stations every week. Did you know that you can follow our instagram account and join us every week? There are tons of interesting topics that we're going to talk about and we have talked about them before, so make sure not to miss any of the live sessions ahead. You just need to follow our instagram account and we will announce that community sessions that are completely free each week. Okay, like always, it was really fun hanging out with you, guys, and I hope you all of the best for the week ahead and have a really, really nice time. Goodbye. Thanks for listening to the Mama is podcast. If you enjoyed today's episode, please subscribe. That way, you'll receive fresh episodes every week. Did you know that together, we can change the forgotti culture of caring and sharing, a proof that we care for each other and ourselves? Just you need to head over to Itunes, subscribe and then leave a positive review so that many more women can benefit. The second way is to take a screenshout of this very episode, tag me at moment's official and go share it in your instagram stories. I truly look forward to connecting with you, so stay tuned.

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