07 | You are Beautiful Mama! You‘re more than a Body...

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Dear body thank you for loving me, in the worst possible pressures, even when I didn’t love you back.From now on, whenever we see our stretch marks or cellulite in the mirror we will recall all the joy behind every moment that we noticed our belly enlargement in pregnancy photos… and how we miss that spectacular experience of feeling our baby inside our belly, and after this, we will call them “our warrior paints” because they remind us of our fighting in various challenges of life … and we will smile…From now on, Whenever we see a picture of a fake filtered picture and deeply wish to be like her… we will immediately look in the mirror and tell ourselves that “I am my kind of beautiful…I am more than enough, I am loved, I am seen, and I have a voice.” And that’s what matters.Let’s foster a healthy lifestyle, a flourishing relationship with our body…embracing our flaws, and be more confident… Let’s stop worrying if other people like us… Because we like us… and we are more than a body…

Be The best version of yourself mama,I'm Mahsa Rezaei and welcome to MamaNest. A nest for modern moms who are eager toachieve a simpler, more intentional life. In this podcast we're gonna to rewrite thescript and reinvent the culture of motherhood together. Remember becoming a mother is thebeginning of our prosperity, not forgetting ourselves, A fulfilled, healthy, confident andproductive mom is all we need to be, to guarantee our family's future. I am ona mission to make you feel empowered and less overwhelmed, we'll focus onproductivity, parenting, mindfulness, minimalism, environmental and economicconsciousness, besides family wellness. I am here to help you broaden your horizon and gain clarity at showing up as your best Mama self. So, let's buildyou up to day, let's dive into it, Hey there. How are you today girls? Ihope you're feeling awesome, especially about yourself, but what? What kind of greeting is that?I said I hope you're feeling awesome about yourself and the reason why Isaid that comes from our topic in this episode of MamaNest. You are about to tap into some of ourfearsome beliefs about the body which we might shame to admit, but it's realand in fact it's more wide spread among women and unfortunately, it'seven worse among us moms. You might guess that it's all aboutbody image and body dissatisfaction. and the reason why I chose it is theprevalence of body image dissatisfaction these days, and it is truly heartbreaking. Music Music Music Music 3000:02:55.740 --> 00:03:00.900Based on statistics offered by NEDassociation, approximately ninety one percent of women are unhappy with theirbodies and resort to dieting in to achieve their idle body shape. In a survey morethan forty percent of women and about twenty percent of men, agreed theywould consider cosmetic surgery in the future. The statistics remainrelatively constant across gender, age, marital status and race. We're living in a time when every singleone of us is chasing to find the fastest weight loss diet.experimenting each and every one of the fiddle-faddle advertisements, whichfalsely promises that will be the Barbie soon. and promise us to build a skinnybody in the least amount of time, Maybe were about to buy and consume therecently popular pack of weight loss tea or take the miraculous medications,we've heard about or we've already bought them. It's time when most of us are wishingfor the shortcuts to carve our body or...

...fix part of it with dangerous surgeries,or maybe already we've done that. and if none of the list above, just we're simply mad at ourselves,for how our body looks like Regret about a past and miss maybe thetime when we had no child, before the unwelcome cellulite appears in our bodyas a result of the pregnancy and how painful it is. It's like a burden on our shouldersall the time that we're not enough to be loved by anybody. that we need tolook another way to feel good. We're waiting for the ideal day thatwe're perfect, and at that shiny moment we can be happy again. We can havebetter relationships with our husband. We can have more confidence and simplywe can live better. But hold on moms... hold on! In the first places, What are wemodeling our children by thinking so? aren't we ruining their confidencebesides our own too? when we emphasize in front of them that we feel bad aboutour body about how well look especially after having children. Every time we're talking with our peersabout this repetitive sad topic, aren't me making the mindset for them that sweet heart, just be mindful of the factthat you are never enough. You can never be happy. You're imperfect andyou'll never be loved unless you're at certain size, unless your bodies, likefake pictures of woman bodies and advertisements or unless it is somesort of surgery, aren't we imposing the toxic messagesabout body image from the media on our innocent children every single secondthat we're starving ourselves with the soul-breaking fad diets. Every time we are punishing ourselveswith the workouts that are going to magically change our body shape, and ifthat doesn't happen in a few days, we give up and never exercise again. Our body image plays a role in how ourkids see themselves. Studies show that daughters are twice as likely to haveideas about dieting when their mother has diet. Have you ever noticed thatwhen our children are little, they eat whatever they want without beingcautious about the calorie intake? They wear whatever they want without beingworried about other people's opinion about them and how happy they live,how free they live. And we're locking them up in the prison of mindunconsciously because of our body negative image. We exist in a world today, whereeverything can be faked or fixed! stomachs can be tightened, noses can be changed and cellulite can belasered away. Apparently, there is no way as a young woman who's digesting this media and we're constantly trying to hide those parts of our body thatare not perfect. mamma, We weren't born with theseinsecurities... We were told to be insecure... we weren't born with these insecurities... we were born to be insecure... (MUSIC)Did you know that these toxic messages can be a lifetime basis of...

...self hatred?! We were prone to these messages everywhere and it causes a self hate in us and we should be we should be careful about notrepeating them for our children. I want us to know that reaching theweight goal does not cure body dissatisfaction. Fixing the imperfections of the bodydoes not cure this mindset of us. Let's remind ourselves that thisperfect world, which we see online in magazines or TV or movies... are presentedto us through a wide ring of filters. we can naturally be beautiful with acnescars, cellulite, Crown Feet or curves. So, let's celebrate ourselves at eachother as we are, as we're meant to be unique, imperfect, beautiful and sopowerful....unique, imperfect, beautiful and so powerful. By the way, I said that how enjoyableis the experience of children who eat whatever they like and there are no limitsfor them earlier. I wanted to emphasize that I definitely do not mean to saythat we should not care about our diet. Our Lifestyle or whatever, becauseit may put pressure on us. On the contrary, we should respect our bodiesand with proper nutrition, a healthy lifestyle and regular exercise habits,We should take great care for ourselves and add these to the body positive mindset that we're talking about now. We need to believe this and stopmodeling wrong to our children. It's not a choice. It's a MUST! we'reresponsible for their future mental health, and this is such a greatrequisite to guarantee this body Confidence does not come fromtrying to achieve the perfect body. It comes from embracing the one you'vealready got, and we should be body confident not only for ourselves, butalso for the sake of our children. Some day I was reading about theharmful effects of body disparaging chats, like fat talk in front ofchildren and how it contributes to eating disorders in their future. FAT talks refers to negative body relatedconversations between girls or young women. You know what I mean, the topicwith which we stick to most of the time when you're chatting with other women but we are more than a body mom. Don't we have any other topic to talkabout? What are we doing with ourselves andour children? Isn't it the time to be more mindful about our intentions inlife, our thoughts, our priorities? Instead of that can't we talk aboutthe latest book, we read with our friends in front of them...about ourenthusiasm of starting a business on our own. of our strong urge to fulfillour call inside and outside of Motherhood, can't we talk about our intentions tohave a healthy lifestyle, and if we want to tell something aboutour body, can't we talk about how we feel good about our current shape,about how lovely is with experience of child birth and how we're proud of ourbody for figuring out that experience? and about how we love ourselves.Despite of all the imperfections now another absorbing fact! do youknow that the beauty definition has changed throughout history? There was atime when chubby women were presumed as beautiful and now a time when skinnyones are supposed as charming ones. Did you know that, back in the past,the fashion industry needed skinny models to save the amount of fabricneeded in their designs to reduce their costs, and so they started to use theunder-weighted premature look models to...

...meet their requirements, and then theybecame fashionable and turned into value among women and what animmoral industry which misuses women, which sacrifices a lot of humans'mental and physical health by altering their priority from being healthy to beskinny. And now we're allowing this fake industry to grab our mentalhealth and distract us from our main mission in life and just focus on the fake body, beautystandards that are not even possible for a woman whose job is a fashion model, let alone others .who do you think is going to win this battle Ifwe don't try to modify our mindsets? the answer is the fashion industry andthe diet industry, and I will adjust this specific issue in the future, butfor now just be informed that the weight loss and weight management marketsize was valued at 192.2 billion dollars in2019 and is projected reach to 295.3 Billion Dollars by 2027 world wide, also weight loss surgeries are anothersegment to watch and guess who's going to profit from promoting fake beautystandards. It's our choice to let that viciouscircle keep existing or stop it. A lot of you might heard about the bodypositive movement before, but I found it useful to imply a little bit here tohelp us understand the false artificial perspective we have about feeling goodand about our body. body positivity refers to the assertionthat all people deserve to have a positive by the image regardless of howsociety and Popular Culture View Ideal, , size and appearance. Some of thegoals of the body positivity movement include Challenginghow Society views the bodypromoting the acceptance of all bodies, helping people build confidence and acceptance of their own bodies and addressingunrealistic body standards. Body positivity is not just aboutchallenging how society views people based upon their physical size andshape. It also recognizes that judgments are often made based on race.Gender, sexuality and disability body positivity also aims to helppeople understand how popular media messages contribute to the relationshipthat people have with their bodies, including how they feel about foodexercise, clothing, health, identity and self-care, by better understanding the effectthat such influences have, the hope is that people can develop a healthier andmore realistic relationship with their bodies. Now, let's touch on some brief history.of this movement, Body positivity has its rules in theFAT Acceptance Movement of the late 1960s fat acceptance focuses on endingthe culture of fat shaming and discrimination against people basedupon their size or bodyweight. The National Association to advance fatacceptance was first established in 1969 and continues towork to change how people talk about weight. The term body positive emergedin 1996 when a psychotherapist and anindividual had been through treatment for an eating disorder founded the website:Thebodypositive.org The site offers resources and educational materialsdesigned to help people feel good about their bodies by taking the focus oflosing weight through unhealthy Diet and exercise efforts. The body positivity movement and itscurrent form began to emerge around 2020. , initially focusingon challenging unrealistic Feminine...

Beauty Standards as the Movement grewin popularity, the original focus and acceptance of weight began the shifttoward a message that all bodies are beautiful, while body positivity has becomeincreasingly popular, people continue to be confused about what exactly means. Part of the recent why body positivityis so misunderstood is due to the fact that there are so many differentdefinitions for what the movement means. and, depending on who you ask. Bodypositivity can mean appreciating your body in spite of flaws, feeling confidentabout your body, loving yourself or accepting your body's shape and size Body positivity also means enjoyingthe body you have and not beating yourself up over changes that happen.Naturally, due to aging pregnancy or lifestyle choices, instagram played apivotal role in the rise of body positivity movement by defininghashtags in this regard. In recent years, a number of magazines andcompanies have incorporated efforts to be more body positive in theirpublications and marketing efforts, while companies, including Dove, hasdeveloped marketing campaigns incorporating body positivity messages.One of the major goals of body positivity is to address some of theways that body satisfaction influences mental health and well being. Having a healthy body image, plays arole in how people feel about their appearance and even how they judgetheir self worth, problems that can emerge as a result ofpoor body image include: depression, Women Experience, depression at muchhigher rate than men do, and some researchers believe that body dissatisfactionmay play an important rule in explaining this gender difference indepression rates, low self esteem, eating disorders, or pursuing unhealthy actions likeunnecessary surgeries, unsafe weight loss habits such as crash diet orinappropriate use of hormones to build muscles. But where does the negative body image come from? a body? Image does not develop inisolation, culture, family and friends, and peersand media, all convey positive and negative messages about the body. They can encourage people even from ayoung age, to believe that there is an ideal body type. The image is often anunnatural one. Fashion industry also sets anunhealthy example when they employ under weight models to display theirproducts. Discrimination based on race, sizeability, gender orientation and also age plays a role. Exposure to daily micro aggression at workand in society can cause people to feel that they do not measure up or thatthey are somehow lacking. All of this factors can impact theperson's mental and physical well being. Studies have suggested thatfemales who have greater resilience linked to family support, gender rolesatisfaction, coping strategies, fitness and well being or more likelyto have a positive body image. This suggests that emotional insecurity mayalso contribute to a negative fight image. [Music] [Music] [Music]...

...[Music] [Music] 24400:20:28.580 --> 00:20:32.520and now here are some typical tips thatmay help us feel more positive about our body, spend time with people who have apositive outlook. practice positive self-talk. For example,saying my arms are strong rather than saying my arms are flabby. were comfortable clothes that look goodin us, Avoid comparing ourselves with otherpeople appreciating what our body can do, such as laughing or creating. be actively critical of media messagesand images that make us feel as if we should be different. Make a list of ten things well likeabout ourselves, see ourselves as a whole person, not Animperfect body part. Do something nice for our body, such as getting a massageor haircut. Instead of spending our precious time fighting our flaws, wecan invest our time in other things like starting a new hobby or last butnot the least aim for a healthy lifestyle which might include having anutritious diet. The points above can be generally usedfor any one, but still, I think motherhood put a burden on our shoulders tokeep watchful eyes on our behaviors, even more. Okay? and as moms, we saidthat we'll be teaching our kids harmful habits. If we often complain about ourweight or our body shape, or often try new miracle diets and tell our kidsthat they would be more attractive if they lose weight. And here are some mom specific keepsfor us: if we want to lose way to get healthypay attention to the language that we use with our kids rather than talkingabout dieting, explain that we are eating healthy foods, together with your family cook healthymeals, order healthy males at restaurants and get more physicalactive. Let's teach our children about smart food choices and help themdevelop healthy eating and exercise habits. We can help our children develophealthy body image by making sure our children understand that weight gainand growth are normal parts of development, especially during puberty, not making negative statements aboutfood, weight and body size and shape about ours, our children's or any oneelse's, allowing our children to make decisionsabout food while making sure that plenty of healthy, nutritious meals andstacks are available for them, complimenting our children more ontheir efforts, talents, accomplishments and personal values, rather than thelooks. Limiting their screen time. Inaddition to getting less exercise, kids who watch TV shows or movies or playonline games offence, unrealistic female bodies. Talk with kids about themedia images. They see, encouraging our children's school tocreate policies against bullying Talking to our children, often andshowing them that were always there to listen. And after this general prescription toreinforce body image, I will offer a...

...mindful exercise for as MOMS to aid usin this path of becoming our best self as a role model to our kiddos, and I wanted to mention one final pointbefore closing the topic. Definitely I didn't mean to promoteunhealthy lifestyle choices and obesity. or appreciate not caring about ourappearance in this episode the whole point was to help us love ourbody. No matter the changes is gone through. True, our life shouldn't be revolvedaround the shape of our body. We should nourish our body, treat it with care andembrace its flaws, but don't obsess and constantly criticize our body, otherwisebeen slowly damage our mental and physical health. Now, let's get to our mindful exercise. take a deep breath mamma be proud of your body. At this verymoment, can you recall how your body retainsyour beautiful mercy from God? I mean your child inside you for nine monthsand then deliver him or her to this world through that miraculous process ofchild birth. To remember that moment, I can vividly recall that final stagethat I was pushing with all my might. My husband was holding my hand andunbelievably trying to lift my sprit. and how strong I was at that moment and all of a sudden, my little daughterbegan to come to this world. Now you also go over your pregnancy andchild birth memories for a minute and listen to this music. Let's all be thankful to God how niceour body was at that moment to carry all those pressure to quietly heal allthose pains that injuries afterward, and letting us be a mother, the most wonderful experience in thewhole wide world. Dear body, thank you for loving me inthe worst possible pressures. Even when I didn't love you back! and from now on, whenever we see ourstretch marks or cellulite in the mirror, we will recall all the joy behind everymoment that we noticed our belly enlargement in pregnancy photos and howwe miss that the spectacular experience of feeling and baby inside our bellyand after this we will call them our warrior pains, because they remind us ofour fighting and various challenges of life, And we will smile. from now on, whenever we see a pictureof a fake filtered body and deeply wish to be like her, we will immediatelylook in the mirror and tell ourselves that I am my kind of beautiful. I am morethan enough. I'm loved. I'm seen. I and I have a voice. and that's what matters. Let's foster a healthy lifestyle, aflourishing relationship with their body, embracing our flaws and be moreconfident. Let's stop worrying if other...

...people like us, because we like us, andwe are more than a body.[Music] so stay tuned because I'm bringing youepisodes once a week thanks for joining me today, and by the way I can find theshow notes on ww.mamanestco.com and don't forget tosubscribe to this podcast, so you can receive fresh episodes every week. Ilook forward to our next episode. Bye for now... .

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