06 | Don‘t forget the magic of Commitment and Consistency in this path of becoming your Best Self

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

we launched a topic in episode 2 about defining our best self and deriving our bucket list in a yearly version and continued that in episode 4 by setting a personal growth plan for the next three months. We also covered the positive mindset as a tool and mentioned its importance to achieve our goals. And finally, we promised to wrap up the topic in this episode. If you’re new to this podcast, I encourage you to go over the previous episodes I mean episodes 2 and 4, for more clarification. Otherwise, I suppose you have your personal development plan in hand which is written based on your wheel of life. And We’ll tap into the magic of committing to our dreams and eventually tracking our progression in this path of becoming our best self, here in this very episode.You can download your freebie at www.mamanestco.com

Be The best version of yourself Mama, I'm Mahsa Rezaei and welcome to MamaNest. A nest for modern moms who are eager toachieve a simpler, more intentional life. In this podcast we're gonna rewrite thescript and reinvent the culture of motherhood together, Remember becoming a mother is thebeginning of our prosperity, not forgetting ourselves, A fulfilled, healthy, confident andproductive mom, is all we need to be to guarantee our family's future. I'm on a mission to make you feel empowered and less overwhelmed, we'll focus onproductivity, parenting, mindfulness, minimalism, environmental and economicconsciousness, besides family wellness, I'm here to help you broaden yourhorizon and gain clarity on showing up as your best Mama self. So, let's buildyou up today, let's dive into it, Hello Mama. How's life in your world?Well, as you may recall, we launched the topic in episode two about definingour best self and deriving our bucket list in a yearly version. Andcontinued that in episode four by setting a personal growth plan for thenext three months. We also covered the positive mindset as a tool and mentionedit's importance to achieve our goals, and finally, we promised to wrap up thetopic in this episode. If you're new to this podcast, I encourage you to goover the previous episodes. I mean episode two and four for more clarification, Otherwise, I suppose you have your personal development plan in hand,which is written based on your wheel of life. we'll tap into the magic ofcommitting to our dreams and eventually...

...tracking our progression in this pathof becoming our best self here in this very episode. So, let's jump intotoday's topic. As a reminder, I've talked about thesix-step simple system of mine, that I designed for my own self andthen shared it with you moms out there, and it was step one: dream elicitation,step two: writing a letter to your future best self, step three: adopting apositive mindset, step four: setting a personal growth plan, step five:committing to our best future self and step six: tracking our progress. and nowin this episode, starting with step five, which is committing to our bestself. And what do I mean by that? The magic of committing to a specificgoal, our best self, which was well definedin episode two and by the way she was a good girl and we had a cup of teawith her before and talk with her, is in fact a manifestation of our dreamsand goals and representation of what we want to achieve in life and socommitment to our best self conveys the meaning of commitment to our goals. But why Iput it as one of the steps in my system of reaching my future best self? in ournoisy world of multitasking always connected and over stimulated work,it's easy to live in a constant state of distraction, but it doesn't have tobe that way. It's in fact the dangerous mistake we all make. How often do we do this in our own life? We think constantly about our vaguedesires without committing to specific goals. You want to be a better motherwithout knowing what should we do exactly? We want to foster a deeperbond with our children, but without knowing the precise details of it. or evenworse, we took some time and derived...

...what we want in life thoroughly, but weforget about them. Isn't it awful? Hopefully, after episodes, two and fourand doing the exercises we're not the one who doesn't know what are her goalsin detail? But what should we do not to be the other person who forgets aboutthe precise detailed goals that are derived in alignment with their real goals oflife? Who gives up her dreams because of misremembering them. Don't worry girls. I have a novel solution for this, andthis is the existential reason why I told you to write a letter to your future bestself. Before this, you might wonder why wewrote this letter? where are we going to use that? and now it'sthe time to reveal the intention behind that. What I do to be committed to my veryspecific goals and my very well defined best self, is to read thisletter to my future self out loud every morning, when I wake up. and Icannot say how it helped me to be motivated each and every day, to go onboard, to move towards my dreams and goals and to remain on the journey ofbecoming my best self, and this solution might be little knownin comparison to the Vision Board, which you might heard about it, but I found iteven more powerful because the magic of words give you strong power anddetermination in my opinion. And having a letter is handier for me thana physical vision board, you are free to make whatever choice youwant Mama. Just do not neglect the magic of commitment to your goals and dreams, and that was step five. Simply read the letter you wrote andhelp yourself to be committed to achieving your goals. Extremelystraightforward. Don't you think so? By now, we elicited our dreams and madea bucket list. wrote a letter to our...

...best self based on that list, adopted apositive mindset and a can-do attitude in this process of selfdevelopment, reached a three month growth Plan for balancing our wheel oflife and made a commitment to our dreams by promising to read our letterevery day and what we need to do now, is action. Do you remember your jagged wheel oflife? How was it's shape? We aimed to plan our life in a way thathelps our wheel of life to be whole and balanced so that we could drive theroad of life with more peace and comfort. Can you recall its segments? They were spirituality, motherhood,personal growth, health, love, community finance, profession, family andrecreation and physical environment. We assessed our life in all these tensections and finally reached a list of actions for the next three months. Thathelp our wheel of life to look more balanced and also we emphasized that weshould begin with the weakest area as you may remember, And now, if you inspect the list of actions that you wrote in your plan, you will acknowledge that a few ofthese actions or one and done things that just need to be put in a checklistand checked once. like hiring some one in your career, to facilitate yourprofessional section of life. But the majority of them are not definitely oneshot actions, it's better to say that they're habits that we decided to embarkupon in order to build our best self. For example, you want to set a datenight every week with your husband to deepen your relationships with him. or reading a chapter of a book daily toboost your self developmental process, or you want to set a movie night withfamily to level up your family recreation section in life. It'scrystal clear that these are recurring...

...actions, they're habits that need to befostered in our daily routines. So speaking, and knowing of good habitsthat we should be in is enough to achieve our goals? Definitely no! we demand actual results. We require toguarantee their continuity. Therefore, tracking these habit is substantiallyvital. Tracking our habits can beinterchangeably used as tracking our progress, and what an important topic. Habits, their power and the art oftracking them can be a topic to a separate episode. However, I thought itwould be beneficial to tap into them for a little bit here to terminate oursix step system of turning into our best self better, and then some daybring up the habit's topic and explain its various aspects more. and for now,what do we need to track our habits? because committing to perform aspecific habit or action is often the difference between our desire and ourresults, and we want achieve results. We want toreach our goals and we want to be our best self. Right? if you want to stick with a habit forgood what simple effective thing you can do is keeping a habit tracker. And here's why. elite performers will often measure, quantify and track their progress in various ways, each little measurementprovides feedback. It offers a signal of whether they're making progress orneed to change course. For the chef tasting the ingredientstells them whether they're making progress towards their desired end goal.It provides the immediate feedback they need to get the recipe just right. Like a chef, improving a recipe throughtrial and error, we often improve our habits through trial and error. If oneapproach doesn't deliver the desired effect, then we adjust like a chef tweaking the amount of an ingredient.

However, there is an importantdifference between getting feedback while cooking a meal and getting feedback while building a habit. when it comes to building a habit, feedback isoften delayed, it's easy to taste an ingredient or to watch the cake rise inthe oven, but it can be difficult to visualize the progress you're makingwith your habits. Perhaps you've been running for a month, but you stilldon't see a change in your body, or maybe you managed to meditate for tenstraight days, but you still feel stressed and anxious at work. Habit formation is a long race. Itoften takes time for the desired results to appear, and while you'rewaiting for the long term rewards of your efforts to accumulate, you need areason to stick with it in the short term, you need some immediate feedback thatshows you're on the right path, and this is why a habit tracker can help. A habit tracker is a simple way tomeasure whether you did a habit. The most basic format is to get acalendar and cross of each day you stick with your routine. And in a more complete version, you canhave a table each row for a new habit each column for a day of month,for example, if you meditate on Saturday, Tuesday and Friday, each ofthose dates gets a tick as time rolls by the calendar becomes a record ofyour habit streak. for a better illustration, you can find a free habit trackertemple in our website and download your Freebie, and if you need theaddress, you can find it in the show notes, No matter what design you choose. Thekey point is your habit tracker provides immediate evidence that youcompleted your habit. It's a signal that you're making progress. Of coursethat's not all it does. Let me use the words of James clear,the writer of a best selling book Atomic...

...habits", which matches up with this topica lot. habit tracking is powerful for threereasons: one: It creates a visual cue that canremind you to act. two: It is motivating to see theprogress you're making. You don't want to break your streak, and three: Itfeels satisfying to record your success at the moment. What the first habit tells is: Habittracking naturally builds a series of visual cues. This means that the moreyour table is filled, the better you're habits are embedded in you. When you lookat the table and see your streak, you will be reminded to act again. Researchhas shown that the people who track their progress and goals like losingweight or quitting smoking are all more likely to improve than those who don't.A habit tracker is a simple way to log your behavior. and the mere act of tracking a behaviorcan spark the urge to change it. Habit tracking also keeps you honest.Most of us think that we act better than we do. Measurement offers one way to overcomeour blindness to our own behavior and notice what's really going on each day,when the evidence is right in front of you, you're less likely to lie toyourself. All right, let's go to benefit numbertwo. We point to the fact that the most effective form of motivation isprogress. When we get a signal that we're moving forward, we become moremotivated to continue down the path. In this way, habit tracking can have anadditive effect and motivation. Each small win, feeds your desire. This can be particularly powerful on abad day when you're feeling down it's easy to forget about all the progressyou've already made...

...habit tracking provides visual proofof your hard work, a subtle reminder of how far you've come, plus the emptysquare you see each morning can motivate you to get started because you don'twant to lose your progress by breaking your streak. and about benefit numberthree. Finally, tracking feels rewarding. Itis satisfying to cross an item off your list to complete an entry in yourworkout log or to mark a tick on the calendar. It feels good to watch yourresults grow and if it feels good, then you're more likely to endure. habit tracking also helps keep your eyeon the ball. You're focused on the process, rather than the result, All right. Those benefits sound great,but it's not necessary to fill your habit tracker with every habit thatmakes up your day. In fact, if you're already sticking to a habit, then itseems like extra work to me to track it as well. So what should you measure in yourhabit tracker? habit tracking, can help kickstart anew habit or keep you on track with behaviors that you tend to forget orlet slight when things get busy, your habits could be daily, weekly ormonthly, and here are some examples: common daily habits to track likereading one chapter, meditating for five minutes, waking up by 5 AM,drinking 8 glasses of water, taking vitamins or supplements or taking awalk outside .For something to become truly habitual, you need to repeat itfrequently. As a result, most habits are daily, but it can also be helpful touse a habit tracker for various weekly or monthly routines. These behaviorswon't become automatic, like tying your shoes or brushing your teeth, but ahabit tracker can remind you to complete them nonetheless, and commonweekly habits to track like publishing...

...a blogpost, doing the laundry,watering the plants or tiding up your bedroom. And monthly habits likereviewing your finances, transferring money to a saving account or deepcleaning the house, and by the way, I have good news for you. I am going tosummarize this valuable book for you soon in a separate episode, so staytuned for that. Basically, what we talked about herewas getting in the habit of using your habit tracker. A habit is a lifestyleto be lived, not a finish line to be crossed. You are looking to make smallsustainable changes you can stick with for years. and a habit tracker is onetool in your toolbox on the road to behave your change. It is an effectiveway to prove, to visualize your progress and motivate you to show up again tomorrow, so I'm super excited to officially round up the whole system ofbecoming your best self. This whole process truly served me inmy life and made lots of my dreams come true. I wholeheartedly hope the samefor all of you moms out there. You can never imagine how much do I care aboutyou and your dreams and love you to become your best self. Wish you the best mom and rest assuredthat the best is yet to come. Bye for now... so stay tuned, because I'm bringingyou episodes once a week. Thanks for...

...joining me today and by the way, youcan find the show notes on www.mamanestco.com and don't forgetto subscribe to this podcast, so you can receive fresh episodes every week. Ilook forward to our next episode. Bye for now...

In-Stream Audio Search

NEW

Search across all episodes within this podcast

Episodes (28)